here’s a tip: if you start dating a depressed person, don’t be surprised if they are still depressed while they are dating you.
they’re not depressed because they’re single, and you are not an all-powerful cure for mental illnesses. just be there for them.
As someone that suffers from depression (and is asexual), this is very true. Sometimes, taking my medication and doing something I find fun/always makes me smile doesn’t even work, in the slightest. This is what depression does. It like is being forced daily to become a mere shadow of your trueself: consumed by something I’m still not able to control with help already. That’s how powerful it is! The best way you can do is to be there for them. Those that are depressed don’t like being anti-social or alone (even if he/she denies it), doing this only feeds the inner monster that is depression. Pushing everyone away is one of the worst possible decisions a depressed individual can ever make. We need the support. Also, the fact that you can’t be a cure aggravates and saddens us. You think we like feeling like garbage when we’re spending time with you? HECK NO! That’s the last thing we yearn to feel…Remember, it isn’t anything personal (don’t take it that way). it is just mental.